Need some good advice with this girl from church! 10 points?

Well, I have been going to this church for about 3 months. On my first day there in sunday school class, a girl came over and sat by me. She could have sat anywhere. She asked if this was my first time there and we exchanged names. She doesn't talk much and seems shy. She never really looks at you face to face, just out of the corner of her eye. Since then there has not been much conversation between us. She doesn't really talk to much of anyone. When we are in the service though she sits by her parents and seems very comfortable around them, looks them in the face etc.





Well here are my questions:


1) She wears a ring on each of her ring fingers, do they mean anything? She is in a singles sunday school class.





2) I'm 33. I don't know how old she is. She looks like she is maybe 22 max... but she looks like one of those people who will always look young. ( I have been told that I look about 6-8 years younger than I am). So maybe she is 25, 28 .. maybe 21? My question is: Is it alright to ask her out? Is it inapporopiate since I only see her at church?





Additional facts!


She has been going here for years.


It is a conservative baptist church.


She is VERY pretty, I might be aiming too high!Need some good advice with this girl from church! 10 points?
Well, Baptist or not, asking her out in the middle of a service would likely be inappropriate. You'll just have to find another place to talk. You say she attends a singles religious class? She is likely single no matter what rings there are on her fingers. This could be a simple opening for you to strike up a harmless conversation without getting into weird stuff too fast.





The problem with shyness is they tend not to give you much info to work with when you want to try and get to know them. It could be from many sources, but, the few shy people I can think of offhand each had situations where they were hurt in the past, so they do not open up easily.





Myself, I would sit next to her some Sunday before class and ask her, if she is single, why does she were her rings the way she does. You could then add on to it that you find it kind of awkward because you don't know if she is available or not.





This now will require her to respond and you have initiated a conversation! ^_^





Sadly, shyness still works against you here. She will 'clam up' once she answers, whatever her answer. So prepare for every possible response she could give you with something to continue things. The important thing is to LISTEN to what she says. It's the best place to bring your next question.





If you're lucky and plan it right, you will speak until your class starts, then you are sitting together quietly while you learn important religious matters. When these end, turn to her and tell her you've enjoyed speaking or somesuch. Tell her you hope to do it again.





Make your gettaway. You want her comfortable talking with you and shyness means she isn't used to talking with strangers for very long. No matter how great you are, this will likely be the case. So get away and look forward to next week!





Each week as something new and volunteer something easygoing from your own past. Until you know her better try to avoid dangerous subjects like religion, politics, and sex/love. You CAN talk about these things when you know her a little better, but, they tend to evoke powerful feeling and opinions and that is trouble to a fledgling relationship.





Before you know it,you will find out if she is the girl for you or not. At 33, I know you are a bit 'hurried', but speed always messes relationships up. I met my spouse at 30 and we married 5 years later although it felt like we were married much sooner than that. That soul-melding thing and all.





Also, this approach can give you a friend, even if she isn't the one for you. Hope this helps, I'll say a prayer that God finds joy for you both.Need some good advice with this girl from church! 10 points?
She sounds shifty to me buddy.





1) she goes to church


2) she goes to chruch


3) she goes to church on her own


4) she wont look you in the eye, so just what is she thinking when she talks to you


5) are you sure she isnt in a cult?


6) why are you single at 33? If you were good enough to pull a pretty girl, dont you think you would have done by now?
dude she likes you, asking her out to coffee after church is not really


asking her on a date.


If it makes her and her family more comfortable then ask the parents


if it is ok too, or invite them all to Coffee after church with you and some other parishioners you know.
Hmm.





If i were you, I'd ask her out.





Just for a drink or something.
Most churches have socials of some sort, so wait until the next one your church holds. Make sure you speak to her and her family and be friendly to them all. Chat to her on her own, if you get the chance, and if she becomes less shy, suggest having a coffee together some time. She does seem shy, but also does her best to be friendly, since she went out of her way to speak to you, when you were new.